Failure becomes success! Bankruptcy can turn what you think is failure into success.

We live in a country that worships success.  We are trained to seek success and successful people and we hold those who are successful in high esteem and we wish success desperately for ourselves.  Being called a “loser” is for some the worst kind of insult in our success driven culture.

We also have an aversion to failure.  Failure is something to be avoided at all costs.  It means in America that you must hang your head, get depressed, and it can mean worse.  After a failure you feel alone, isolated, and unworthy.  You may even feel that something is wrong with you as you look around you and it seems that everyone else has no problems.

Over the last few years a different paradigm has become more popular.  The idea that we learn more from our failures than from our successes has rung true for many.  People have come to realize that though a success may give you a false sense of superiority or invincibility and cover up other weaknesses, a failure may reveal to you areas in your life that need improvement or areas where you need to do more work.

You truly can learn from failures or experiences of failure more than you can from a success.  After a failure most people inevitably examine everything they did to get to that point with an eye to the future so they don’t repeat the failure.  In that critical examination a whole lot is learned about oneself and one’s actions and beliefs and goals. With a failure you are forced to ask what is truly important or what does success really mean.  Rarely does such a critical reexamination take place when one is successful in anything and if success comes too easy to people then they are robbed of a very great opportunity.

Think of the child stars for instance.  How many of them are functioning, well-adjusted, and happy adults?  And how many would you consider to be a success?  Very few.  Many child stars have extreme success at a very early age.  They get money, fame and fortune enough at an early age to set them up for life.  But we all know that these children usually grow up to be very disturbed adults.  Why is that?  Because fame and fortune came too early and too easily.  They were truly robbed in life of the opportunity to struggle and fail.  The struggles and the failures are a necessary and essential element of life.

According to a Harvard grad success is not all it’s cracked up to be anyway.  It can often feel like failure.  A Harvard student wrote an article on how he didn’t feel successful even after graduating from Harvard.  This should have been a time for him to celebrate success but his graduation left him feeling empty.

He began to describe in the article how students are taught at Harvard to be risk averse.  They are protected from failure and never allowed to fail.  These Harvard kids have known nothing but success as they graduated with honors from high school and now they have a Harvard degree.  But the author concludes that Harvard students have been robbed of their chance to fail.  He makes my point that failure is a tremendous learning opportunity and people need to risk failure instead of avoid it.  When it happens embrace it and learn from it.

The old adage that we learn more from our failures than our successes is true.  I have learned more from my failures than my successes in life and if you think about it the same will be true for you if you have been lucky enough to have failed at something.

I had a failed in a business venture that I desperately did not want to let go because I did not want to appear to be a failure.  It was very difficult for me to close the business and admit failure even though the business was losing money and obviously needed to be closed.  But after I did close the business I engaged in the mandatory self reflection that was a great benefit.  I learned to never make some of the mistakes I made again.  I readjusted my life and went out and retried everything.

The same can be done with your financial failure.  You at first will resist and try to make your situation work.  All of my clients do.  You will try to work harder and smarter and pay off your credit cards and other bills.  When this doesn’t work you will resist failure strongly.  When you finally break through and admit that a fresh start will help you then you will be ready.

Your debts can be wiped away while you move on debt free.  A financial meltdown can be a tremendous learning experience just like any failure can be.  You will learn more from this experience than the person who has no such problems will.  You can and will learn to live with in your means and manage your credit wisely as we all must.  Very few people are “serial filers” who continue to file bankruptcies.  Most learn their lesson and move on debt free and change their lives.

Donald Trump and many others who are considered very successful have used bankruptcy to get a fresh start, learn from their mistakes, and move on with new knowledge and a new life.

So embrace failure and welcome it as an opportunity to reflect, learn, grow and adjust.  Think of failure as a blessing and as a pathway to success and you truly will get success through failure.  (See my article on why you should file for bankruptcy).

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Do you need a “mulligan”? How about a do-over? Try bankruptcy. It gives you a fresh start.

According to Wikipedia a “Mulligan” was first used in the game of golf.  According to one version of the story the name came from a Canadian golfer who during a golf game claimed the right to hit the golf ball a second time after his first errant shot.  His friends then decided to call this a Mulligan and so was born the name.  It is also called a do-over and other sports have picked up on this concept and gone with it to allow players to re-do a bad play of some sort.

If its good for sports then how about you?  Everyone makes mistakes in life so why should financial mistakes be any different?  People borrow too much from credit cards or buy cars which are too expensive or buy houses that are too large.  Some people buy these things and then lose their jobs and then can’t afford to pay for them.  Others start businesses with every intention to make the business a success but then the business fails for some reason or another.

The point is that people make mistakes.  Some mistakes are forseeable and others are not but all humans are fallible.  We forgive people in sports and in other areas of  life so why not forgive them with their financial mistakes.  The Jews in the old testament forgave debt every seven years.  They knew back then that people without debt were better members of society than those with debt.  They were happier, more productive, and more of an asset to society when their debts were wiped away.  This type of debt forgiveness is as old as the bible itself.  (See here for my blog about bankruptcy and the bible).

Bankruptcy has been in the western world at least since the middle ages when the Venetians used it to stop doing business when they were broke.  It was used in England for many hundreds of years and it came over to America where it has been used extensively for businesses and individuals.

Bankruptcy became the preferred choice for many with large debts.  It is true that a stigma of failure attached itself to bankruptcy which caused many to avoid this choice for longer than they should have.  That stigma is still around today but as many see corporations emerging from bankruptcy stronger they say why not using bankruptcy to liberate individuals.  Why not use bankruptcy to clear out your own debt and to give you a fresh start?

Bankruptcy allows you to wipe away old debt that you cannot possibly pay and get a fresh start.  So if you need a Mulligan, a do-over, or a fresh start without debt then consider bankruptcy.  We forgive all kinds of mistakes in society so why not your financial ones.  You may have had the most honest of intentions when you incurred the debt but things did not work out.  Sometimes the reasons for your financial troubles can be totally beyond your control like the current recession.

So file bankruptcy and lose these debts and give yourself a much-needed Mulligan.  You, your family, and the whole of society will benefit from your decision. (See here for my article on 12 reasons why you should file bankruptcy).

I am a San Diego bankruptcy attorney.  For further questions please visit my websites at or  Or call my office for a free consultation or advice about bankruptcy or debt at (619) 702-5015.   Call now for free credit report and analysis! For a free e-book on “13 things to do to prepare for your bankruptcy filing” please e-mail me at